![]() The power of language to express our identities varies depending on the origin of the label (self-chosen or other imposed) and the context. Jimmy Emerson, DVM – Welcome to Texas – CC BY-NC-ND 2.0. Saying “I need you to stop suffocating me!” really expresses a thought-feeling mixture more than a need. Be cautious of letting evaluations or judgments sneak into your expressions of need. Would you mind if I went home by myself?” would likely make the expression more effective. Stating, “I need to spend some time with my hometown friends this weekend. For example, if one romantic partner expresses the following thought “I think we’re moving too quickly in our relationship” but doesn’t also express a need, the other person in the relationship doesn’t have a guide for what to do in response to the expressed thought. Not expressing needs can lead to feelings of abandonment, frustration, or resentment. Expressing needs can help us get a project done at work or help us navigate the changes of a long-term romantic partnership. Since we almost always know our needs more than others do, it’s important for us to be able to convey those needs to others. ![]() When we express needs, we are communicating in an instrumental way to help us get things done. If you’re in need of emotional support or want validation of an emotional message you just sent, waiting for a response could end up negatively affecting your emotional state. Sometimes people respond immediately to a text or e-mail, but think about how frustrating it is when you text someone and they don’t get back to you right away. There is also a lack of immediate feedback. Things like facial expressions and tone of voice offer much insight into emotions that may not be expressed verbally. There are also disadvantages in that important context and nonverbal communication can’t be included. Communicating emotions through the written (or typed) word can have advantages such as time to compose your thoughts and convey the details of what you’re feeling. We may also still use pen and paper when sending someone a thank-you note, a birthday card, or a sympathy card. In a time when so much of our communication is electronically mediated, it is likely that we will communicate emotions through the written word in an e-mail, text, or instant message. For example, happy is mild, delighted is moderate, and ecstatic is intense ignored is mild, rejected is moderate, and abandoned is intense (Hargie, 2011). As we expand our emotional vocabulary, we are able to convey the intensity of the emotion we’re feeling whether it is mild, moderate, or intense. The more specific we can be when we are verbally communicating our emotions, the less ambiguous our emotions will be for the person decoding our message. In order to verbally express our emotions, it is important that we develop an emotional vocabulary. Despite the fact that expressing feelings is more complicated than other forms of expression, emotion sharing is an important part of how we create social bonds and empathize with others, and it can be improved. Expressions of anger can be especially difficult to manage because they represent a threat to the face and self-esteem of others. Even those with good empathetic listening skills can be positively or negatively affected by others’ emotions. ![]() Some people are generally not good at or comfortable with receiving and processing other people’s feelings. For example, when people say, “I feel like you’re too strict with your attendance policy,” they aren’t really expressing a feeling they are expressing a judgment about the other person (a thought).Įxpressing feelings can be uncomfortable for those listening. And the defendant seemed to have a shady past-I think he’s trying to hide something.” Sometimes people intentionally or unintentionally express thoughts as if they were feelings. A juror might express the following thought: “The neighbor who saw the car leaving the night of the crime seemed credible. Jury members are expected to express thoughts based on reported observations to help reach a conclusion about someone’s guilt or innocence. Whereas our observations are based on sensory information (what we saw, what we read, what we heard), thoughts are connected to our beliefs (what we think is true/false), attitudes (what we like and dislike), and values (what we think is right/wrong or good/bad). We take various observations and evaluate and interpret them to assign them meaning (a conclusion). In the perception process, this is similar to the interpretation step. When we express thoughts, we draw conclusions based on what we have experienced. ![]()
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